When you set out to "fix" someone, what you're really saying is "you're not good enough the way you are, so I am going to fix you." But that's not what they need. What people need is to know that they are loved unconditionally. They need to know they are approved and accepted even when they miss the mark on occasion. People want to know that they can count on your love and support no matter what happens. If you find that you are correcting or "teaching" someone in every conversation, you probably need to adjust your approach so that you don't miss the true riches of the relationship.
The truth is we've all been guilty of trying to fix, teach or correct someone else. My own mother used to tell me, "If I could open up your head and pour my knowledge into it, I would." But she couldn't, and neither can I for my children or anyone else…and neither can you! Our job on this earth is not to fix everyone but to love and support them and give them the grace to grow.
Today, I encourage you to evaluate how you approach your relationships. Begin by acknowledging the good in the people in your life. Tell them how proud you are of them and how they bring joy to your heart. Use your words to strengthen others and deposit life into them. Give people room to grow because empowering others is what love is all about.
"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8, NIV).
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